Why Historical Fictions Are the Best Books for Young Adults

The ‘best books for young adults’ are historical fiction and here are eleven benefits for you as a young adult, or your parents, to encourage you to read historical fiction.

Statistics show that the young human brain has a natural ability to absorb new information as part of its developmental growth.

As we age the speed at which we learn slows down. While you are young is a good time to encourage the development of the following qualities:

1) KNOWLEDGE – It will have obvious benefits for you as you learn to retain more knowledge and start life with a good grasp of dates and periods of the past.

2) IMAGINATION – As you sense reality in the past, your imagination will grow.

3) APPRECIATION – You will learn an appreciation of the past which will spill into the present

4) RESPECT – You will learn a new respect for the passage of time and will learn to respect the future

5) WISDOM – You will grow wiser as you witness the hypothetical thinking (or not) from the past. Learning from past mistakes will take on a greater meaning for you

6) ENGAGING – You will learn that history is engaging. Characters from the past weave an entertaining illustration around lifeless facts making history a lot more multi-dimensional than a long string of faceless facts designed to make exam time more difficult.

7) MEMORY – As a young adult you will become more proficient at creating instantaneous story ‘cues’ to remember facts later

8) DISCERNMENT – Historical fictions will also teach you to be discerning, when you see how the past can be altered with the flick of the writer’s pen or the command from a king for example

9) RESPECT – You will be taught appreciation for the aging process and respect for older people

10) ROLE MODELING – Helps you to shape your development. The characters from the past are excellent role models for young adults. Their variety of designs and temperaments offer a wide selection for young adults to model themselves after

11) ACCOUNTABILITY – Helps you decide what lifestyle might better yourself or not when you become an adult. Watching the outcome for others can help shape the younger adults accountability for their own actions – NOW!

Check out Amazon.com, Smashwords and any institution carrying historical fiction books and help yourself get a head start in life!

Casey Grace is an expert in the Riviera Maya, Mexico, and books for young adults she has written with her daughter include all aspects of living, working and playing in the ancient land of the Maya.

Her background in the television and film industry in Toronto bring the entertainment aspect to their books.

The Meaning Of Success

I have a very old little book with the above title, by J.H. Brennan its pages are yellowed with age and it is looking very sad, but the contents are as relevant as ever. I am pleased to say the book is still available in bookshops, so that you can take advantage of the secrets too. I came across it the other day when I was doing some clearing out and re-read it, it is about changing you life by discovering what is important to you.

Because your self-image was pretty much formed by the time you were eight years old the book explains you are capable of much more than you think you are. There are quizzes within the pages to help you re-evaluate yourself and by changing your perspective you can change you self-image.

There are mind-play techniques to improve your memory and several relaxation exercises to teach you how to deeply relax, it is suggested relaxation is the key to success. You are then shown how to use your subconscious mind to help you make all your decisions and prevent you floundering in indecision.

There are tips to help you present yourself at interviews and achieve the best jobs, and then work your way up the corporate ladder with your new confidence and techniques, and how you can have a successful future and achieve everything you desire.

What is it you want for yourself? What are your wildest dreams? Is it to climb the corporate ladder and secure one of the top jobs in the company, or maybe to work for yourself, developing a passion into a business.

What does success mean to you? Is it expensive toys, a flashy car, a big house and enormous salary or is it peace of mind, time freedom and a happy family life?

Have you ever considered running your own business? Why not build an online business in your spare-time ready for early retirement, which will also give you an interest in later years. Or would you rather push you way to the top of the ladder in the cooperate world. We are all different, with a different agenda and different views of success; sometimes our ideas change at different stages of our lives

Be sure to consider what it is your really want in your life, and the secrets within this book can help you get there. Another book to help you on your journey of self discovery is “Awaken the Giant Within” by Anthony Robbins.

 

Tips To Living Your Dreams

The other day I pulled the above book from my bookshelves in order to re-read it. I find whenever I re-read a book after a period of time, I discover something new within its pages. A little gem of an idea I had missed before. I can never throw interesting books out I just buy more book shelves. Neither would I get the same enjoyment reading from a mechanical device, I like the feel of the pages and the book in my hands.

It is an unusual book; on the pack of each page are quotes from influential people on all manner of things. Words of wisdom; you can either contemplate them as you turn the pages or ignore them and press on with the main message of the chapter, if you are eager to discover the road to your dreams.

It is a work book taking you through a series of activities to find your ultimate dream. First you discover your dream, then through the pages you are given techniques for achieving it whatever it might be.

All the distractions that could get in your way are pointed out and how to deal with them. How to deal with fear of the unknown and all the other negative problem areas you could encounter.

Be prepared for some soul-searching and thought-provoking activities as you learn to discover your dream and how you can achieve it. It is a work-book with exercises if you choose to complete them.

If you are serious in achieving your purpose in life and living your dream or finding out what has been delaying you up until now it is an interesting thought-provoking book, which can certainly lead you in the right direction.

Do you have an unfulfilled dream, or many? The book instructs you in discovering which is your main dream and how to tackle it first before moving on the others.

What is your dream? Maybe its like mine, you want to work at home using the internet. This enables me to work almost anywhere with an internet connection, as another of my dreams is to spend winters in a warmer climate. We are off to Spain in a matter of weeks.

Beginning an internet business takes time but a good mentor certainly helps speed up the process. Instead of wallowing in a sea of information you follow a tried and tested path. You also have a supply of excellent products to interest your customers and you get paid whilst you learn the techniques of affiliate marketing. Choose your mentor wisely, sample their products or look on YouTube for videos and a Google search for reviews.

It is possible that your mentor has a community of like-minded followers that you can communicate with as you learn the system. Having a good mentor has been a real help to me.

The book I am reviewing is: “Do It A Guide to Living Your Dreams” by John-Roger and Peter Mc Williams.

Other books you may like to read:

“Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” by Susan Jeffers.

“Ask for the Moon” by Percy Ross

Living with Passion” by Peter L Hirsch

“Thank God it’s Monday” by Charles Cameron and Suzanne Elusor, a book to offer strategies for making life more tolerable whilst you make changes.

“Awaken The Giant Within” by Anthony Robbins.

 

Why You Should Have Book Tag

So, I’ve seen this book tag going around booktube lately and I thought it would be fun to try it out, being it my first book tag and all.

I’m basically going to say my opinion about a bunch of questions that have the phrase ‘totally should have” in them. Sounds like fun, right?

Let’s do it (!).

*A book that totally should have gotten a sequel*

I’m going with Maybe Someday by Colleen Hoover on this one.

I just didn’t want this book to end. And when it did, I just wanted more. This book was AMAZING. I loved every single word of it, and all I want is more Sydney and Ridge! They are so perfect *sighing dreamily*.

I would have LOVED to get another book with those characters!

All this talk about Maybe Someday makes me want to re-read it for the 6th time.

If you haven’t read this book yet – what have you been doing with your life? READ IT.

*A book series that totally should have had a spin off*

I thought of quite a few options. I mean, who doesn’t want their favourite series to have a spin-off? But it also needs to be fitting. Not every series, as much as you want it to, can have a spin-off.

In any case, I’m going with Harry Potter on this one. It would have been so good to have a spin-off series in the Harry Potter world. Can you imagine a spin-off of all the children of the characters from Harry Potter? Or maybe even a spin-off of Harry’s father, his mother and their friends… how they got to know each other and all of their adventures in their years at Hogwarts.

Oh yes, I totally would’ve wanted to read this.

*An author that totally should have written more books*

Suzanne Collins, Kristine Cashore and J.K Rowling.

All these authors wrote some very good books. The reason I can’t call them favourite authors of mine is because they’ve completely stopped writing more books.

An author grows with each book, gains experience and skills. I believe those authors could have been amazing if they just kept writing more.

Other than having a writer’s block, I honestly don’t get why an author would stop writing. It’s a very sad thing. These authors (and more, like: Stephenie Meyer) totally should have written more books.

*A character that totally should have ended up with somebody else*

99{3a623f07f36a2dbd36ba6ae68b1ae537fe95368901594802ad51d008c9a572d4} of the time I ship the ship that will happen. It’s too hard for me to read a book if my ship is destroyed. It’s not to say I haven’t come across books where my ship was doomed.

*If you haven’t read the first 3 books of The Naturals series by Jennifer Lynn Barnes, skip to the next question. I’m going to say exactly who should have ended up with someone else and who did she actually end up with, so… consider yourselves warned*

Cassie should have totally ended up with someone else entirely.

Instead… she ended up with Dean.

*sigh*

Not my ship at all. I was on an entirely different ship called Cassie & Michael.

Cassie and Michael had chemistry and they kept bumping into each other. From the beginning, you just knew there was something special between them.

With Dean? I felt none of that. They hardly talked, hardly had any real conversation or any kind of chemistry and yet somehow they ended up together.

I honestly don’t understand how or why.

Granted, there is at least one more book in the series so it’s not finished quite yet, but… the chances she’ll change her mind for some reason look slim to none right now.

*Another sigh*

But who knows, maybe I’ll get the surprise of my life in the next book and my ship will sail again.

*A book that totally should have ended differently*

Carry on by Rainbow Rowell.

As I wrote in my review of Carry on: This. Is. Not. An. Ending.

The first 90{3a623f07f36a2dbd36ba6ae68b1ae537fe95368901594802ad51d008c9a572d4} of the book? Pure amaziness.

The last 10{3a623f07f36a2dbd36ba6ae68b1ae537fe95368901594802ad51d008c9a572d4} of the book? All hell breaks loose. Fast. Me? *blinking slowly*, putting the book aside, wondering what in the world just happened.

Seriously? Is this how it ends?

Yeah… no.

*A book that totally should have had a TV show*

Definitely The Lunar Chronicles!

I got this idea the lunar chronicles would make a fantastic TV show while reading the third book. Something about this wold, those characters, all the complexity and awesomeness of it… I could just imagine it as a TV show. And that says a lot considering I’m not in the habit of wanting to turn books I love into movies\TV shows. But with the lunar chronicles… I felt like, in the right hands, it could be such an amazing show.

Can you imagine the possibilities? Just thinking about it makes me all giddy inside.

There is always a risk to adapting a book to the big screen (Just look at the TV show shadowhunters. nope, sorry, I can’t deal with this show. I love the mortal instruments too much), but if done right, wouldn’t it be just amazing?

*A book that totally should have been a movie*

I’m not too keen on book-to-movie adaptations. TV shows? They are usually much more capable of capturing the essence of the book (in those rare occasions) + they are longer and can actually adapt the *whole* book\series and not just parts of it (though they usually don’t do it).

I find that I enjoy the movies of books I didn’t like. Books I love, though… their movies either make me want to kill someone (probably the one who made the movie) or go into denial mode and pretend this movie doesn’t exist. Usually I start with option one and ends up with option two.

So… what book should I nominate for a movie adaptation? I actually have two in mind: Wings by Aprilynn Pike and Sweet Evil by Wendy Higgins. They can turn to be great movies. They both have a very interesting fantasy element that has lots of potential (which I felt hasn’t fully grown in the books).

*A book that totally should have had one POV*

Usually, I don’t have a problem with multiple POVs. If it’s more than 2 POVs than it might get annoying, but I don’t come across many books with more than 2 POVs. The only one that comes to mind is the Heroes Of Olympus series, and while it’s true I didn’t particularly like hearing from a few characters POVs, it didn’t bother me that much.

The Rose & The dagger (by Renee Ahdieh) though… honestly? I did not see the point of condemning us to Irsa POV and a few other random POVs. It was annoying, boring and all I thought while reading those POVs was: “when will we get back to Shazi?” and: “What’s going on with Shazi right now?” and: “Please let this chapter be over so we can go back to the real story.”

Sorry, but you can’t just randomly shove POVs at the readers. Multiple POVs are great when there is a point to them. When there is no apparent point to them? Yeah, not so much.

*A book that totally should have had a cover change*

Richelle Mead has that habit of having ah… really strange book covers for her books. It happened with the vampire academy, with the bloodlines series, and the latest victim was the glittering court book cover. I mean, with the vampire academy and bloodlines I could at least understand there were humans on the covers that were supposed to be Rose and Sydney, but… well, ah… is the person on the glittering court cover even human? It looks *so weird*.

*A book that totally should have not had a cover change*

Hmm… I have to say, I don’t know. It’s usually the other way around: I can’t think of a book I’ve read that got a cover change for the worse. Maybe… Carry On? The previous cover was prettier, in my opinion.

*A book that totally should have stopped at book one*

Divergent.

Oh, believe me, I was a big fan of Divergent once upon a time. I loved books 1 and 2 very much. And then came along book 3 and… well. Let’s just say I would rather it ended with book 1.

“Writing is… being able to take something whole and fiercely alive that exists inside you in some unknowable combination of thought, feeling, physicality, and spirit, and to then store it like a genie is tense, tiny black symbols on a calm white page. If the wrong reader comes across the words, they will remain just words. But for the right readers, your vision blooms off the page and is absorbed into their minds like smoke, where it will re-form, while and alive, fully adapted to its new environment.”
— Mary Gaitskill

All About Public Speaking Books

Participants in my public speaking workshops have often asked me to recommend some great books that they can read to take their mastery of public speaking to the next level. Indeed, reading is a great way in which you can gain new ideas and novel perspectives on speech delivery.

Here are 5 books I highly recommend that you can read to improve your public speaking skills.

Book #1: Confessions of a Public Speaker by Scott Berkun

A book that divulges the secrets behind what great speakers and communicators do, and how you can emulate the success of these speakers through highly practical tips.

Book #2: Talk Like TED: The 9 Public-Speaking Secrets of the World’s Top Minds by Carmine Gallo

The ideas presented in this book are current and cutting-edge. If you want to learn how to sell yourself and your ideas on stage, this book is for you.

Book #3: Speak Like Churchill, Stand Like Lincoln: 21 Powerful Secrets of History’s Greatest Speakers by James C. Humes

Great leaders like Churchill and Lincoln are not only remembered for their heroic leadership, but also for their mesmerizing and captivating speeches. If you want to learn how to deliver inspirational speeches that captures the hearts and souls of your audience, pick up this book right away!

Book #4: Presentation Zen: Simple Ideas on Presentation Design and Delivery by Garr Reynolds

Garr Reynolds is going to change the way you deliver presentations using PowerPoint and Keynote. This book presents noteworthy ideas that transform the way you prepare, design and deliver your presentations.

Book #5: The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speakingby Dale Carnegie

A classic book of public speaking by the guru of communication, Dale Carnegie. This book discloses the fundamentals of how you can influence minds and win hearts through effective speaking. Another book not to be missed!

Conclusion

While I strongly believe that the best way to learn how to deliver exceptional speeches is to do the real thing itself (yes! keep getting stage time to practice your speeches and hone your craft), reading books for new ideas and novel perspectives can put you on a highway to success and accomplishments in this arena. So go forth and pick up a book right away!

 

How To Live Life Fully According From Book

Can you even imagine what it must have been like to be a responder to the Columbine shooting? How could anyone move past the horror and sadness of such an event, and go on to continue to do her job through numerous other tragic situations, much less to live a happy and fulfilling life?

Autumn Shields has just about seen it all in her former career as a victim advocate. She has seen tears and pain and senseless violence, but she has also seen the human spirit rise above it all and continue on. Now, in her new book Living Your Life Alive, she shares with us how sometimes it takes tragedy to make us wake up and live the lives intended for us. Hopefully, however, you won’t need to experience a tragedy to have a wakeup call; instead, as Autumn explains, you just have to listen to your “inner nudges.”

Sadly, too many of us don’t listen to our nudges. We allow negativity and self-doubt to hold us back in life. Autumn illustrates this point by explaining how monkeys are captured on Borneo:

“On Borneo, the natives have a unique way of catching monkeys. They use a hollowed out coconut and some green bananas-the monkeys’ favorite treat. In one end of the coconut, they make a hole just big enough for an adult monkey’s open hand. They tether the other end of the coconut to a tree. Then they drop a banana into the coconut and scatter some around to bait the monkeys.”

“When a troop of monkeys shows up, one monkey will invariably find the coconut and stick in a hand and grab the banana. The monkey is then trapped. Not in the sense that the monkey can’t get away-all it has to do is let go of the banana, after all. But when the villagers show up the next day, they almost always find the monkey battered and bruised or dead of exhaustion because it spent its energy struggling to free its hand without releasing its grip.”

Too many people are like the monkeys. As a result, it may take something drastic for us to wake up and live our lives alive. Other times, we just need some guidance from someone like Autumn to help us move past our fears and doubts. Through her book’s pages, Autumn takes readers on a journey that addresses many of the things that hold them back from living up to their greatest potentials. From discussing overcoming fear to how to remove the masks we hide behind, and from creating a vision for our lives to taking steps to making that vision our reality, Autumn leads us down the path to becoming our own success stories.

Autumn also reminds us that success-however we want to define it-will take some work. Not that we should be intimidated by successful people, thinking we can’t accomplish what they have. She uses Facebook to illustrate this point: “We tend only to see the result, the success story, or the perfect life portrayed on Facebook. What if we could see the minutes of someone’s life instead of just his or her title or result? We tend to compare ourselves to everyone else’s success, but we judge ourselves by our minutes.”

We need to take the time to focus on our minutes. We need to realize that in those minutes, one piled on another, are the steps to our success provided we use each minute well. In the end, our nudges will lead to vision and work, and we will have a payoff finding rewards we least expect. Autumn illustrates this by referring to sunsets on Maui, where she now lives. (How she moved to Maui is a story of nudges answered that you’ll have to read for yourself). People often want to watch the sunset, but Autumn has observed that if they see the sky darken or cloud over just minutes beforehand, they figure the sunset won’t be worth watching so they leave. But Autumn knows the sunset still happens and will be beautiful and the sky may clear at the last minute: “But those other people left… right before. Why not wait the five minutes and just enjoy the air or watch the waves crash on shore? Why do we put so much emphasis on the exact time of the sunset and then walk away from it? As my son has pointed out, ‘Who cares about the sunset? The sky is always more colorful right afterwards.’ We make things the point and forget to enjoy the surrounding moments. We forget to enjoy the right before, the point, and the after… the moments.”

Living Your Life Alive is full of other beautiful moments that have important messages for us, but I’ll just conclude by mentioning that at the end of the book Autumn interviews a number of inspiring people who are examples of living your life alive. Among these people is Kimokeo Kapahulehua, a man who teaches others about Hawaiian Culture. In his interview, he remarks that when people ask him how he can paddle his canoe for hours and stay calm despite the unknown things out on the open sea, he replies, “Because they went before us.” Autumn goes on to explain, “Although we might not know our ancestors, they are with us. He [Kimokeo] just thinks about what his great-grandfather must have done with his mind or hands with the resources he had. He knows that many of his ancestors were doing what he is doing, years and years ago. He draws on their strength because it is now in him. He encourages you to draw on the strengths of those who have gone before you.”

I’ve often felt the same way Kimokeo does. After everything our ancestors have endured, and everything they did to make this world better for us, we have no excuses. We stand on their shoulders and they are cheering us on from a distance to live our lives alive. I encourage readers to honor those ancestors, and more importantly, to honor themselves by living their lives alive. Begin to do so by listening to your nudge to read this book.

 

Things You Need To Know About Mind Power

A favourite book of mine “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” by Dr Joseph Murphy, explains clearly how we can access our mind-power to achieve our greatest dreams; cure bad habits, like alcoholism, smoking, overeating, etc. How to overcome fears and improve poor health. In fact he cures his own malignant growth using mind-power.

He explains how by trusting in the infinite intelligence which we all have access to, we can, without effort and will power change our lives. some people choose to associate this power with religious sources others consider it part of nature, but like electricity it is available to tap into when you know how. We are all familiar with nature healing a simple cut, this same power can be magnified if you learn how.

He quotes instances of well-known figures who have tapped this incredible source; people like Shakespeare, Enid Blyton, Robert Louis Stevenson, and Mark Twain whom all relied on mind power to assist them. Also composers, artists, scientist and healers, plus many more.

If you would like to learn more you too can change your life, free yourself from illness, fear, bad habits or failure. This could be the start of a new beginning for you. Learn how to tap into this wonderful source that lets you create your dreams without the effort of willpower.

Change your beliefs and change your life. The book explains simply how we create our own failures and successes without us realizing we are doing it. change all this by taking control of your thoughts, and directing then where you wish your life to take you. Grow good productive thoughts like seeds in a garden, don’t allow weeds, (negative thoughts) to grow out of control and spoil your life.

It is an easy book to read you could complete it on a lazy Sunday, or work through it chapter by chapter. I have read it many times and on each readings I notice further points I have missed before. It gives me renewed energy to put more lessons into practice. I can say over the years it has been an influence to my positive spirit and has helped me achieve many successes.

It gave me confidence to pass exams usually taken over a year, in a mere 5 months and get a place on a teacher training program, which I completed, travelling 70 miles a day whilst bringing up 3 children single-handed. It has since influenced me in building an online business, and I am planning to publish a book in the near future.

So whatever your dreams take control of your life and learn how your subconscious can assist you.

If you would like to enjoy the time and location freedom of an online business, starting in your spare-time, there is a simple way to begin affiliate marketing. With the help and guidance of a mentor providing best-selling products, marketing training and tools you can work a tried and tested formula and earn commissions whilst you learn the techniques.

Let your mind-power give you confidence to follow your dreams.

 

When You Need To Read A Book

There are a number of books that accumulatively have changed my life, together with life’s experiences. Sometimes a particular book will provide an answer or training in a specific area; sometimes it is an on-going growth sequence. There are times when a suitable book can be a great inspiration or comfort and help to drive you forward. Here you will find a brief description of books that have had an impact on me, are they books you have read or would they help you?

Years ago there were a few books that were instrumental in my sales success:

“The One Minute Sales Person” by Spencer Johnson and Larry Wilson, they also wrote “The One Minute Manager” Their message was – Give people what they want and you will get what you want.

Tom Hopkins, “How to Master the Art of Selling”, and “The Official Guide to Success” was also a favourite. At the age of 21 he made his first million in sales – I can’t say I achieved that but it is an informative book!

A book perhaps everyone could benefit from is “How to Get Your Point Across in 30 seconds or Less, by Milo Frank.

On a personal development level, “Awaken the Giant Within” by Anthony Robbins, teaches you how to take control of your life mentally emotionally physically and financially.

“Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” by Susanne Jeffers, offers suggestions for overcoming fear and procrastination.

“Do It! A guide to Living Your Dreams” by John Rodgers and Peter McWilliams, takes you from where you are now to what you want to achieve in your life through 6 stages and in great detail.

If You need help in believing you can, read “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” by Joseph Murphy. He also cured himself of a life threatening illness, a truly inspiring, confidence building book.

“Creative Visualization” by Ronald Shone will teach you how to visualise your goals to reach them faster, I have used visualisation for years in achieving goals, and recently discovered how well this book illustrates the use of visualisation, (once I got through the first few pages).

If you are looking for an inspirational story “Ask for the Moon and Get It” by Percy Ross; through his efforts he became a philanthropist and gave away money and gifts for the rest of his life. If you want to look up his further details of his life Google his name, he gave away all his money before he died, (not too long ago) plus hundreds of bicycles to needy children because as a boy he had longed for a bike.

There are inspiring classics that still carry a powerful message like Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich” and “Keys to Success” and I’m sure I could name many more I have enjoyed and found helpful.

I will just mention a couple more “Thank God It’s Monday” by Charles Cameron and Suzanne Elusorr. A book with great messages if you find yourself in work you hate. It offers advice to make your job more tolerable whilst you find a job or career that suits you. Plus a book I have recently found helpful in building my current online business “99 Ways to Flood Your Website With Traffic” by Mick Macro.

So whatever your needs are at the moment there a millions of books out there that could help or stimulate you. Maybe you feel you are in a rut and need a new hobby or career, whatever your need I wish you well and hope I have shared some reading that will interest you.

 

How To Raise the Happiness Bar

Heightening Your Happiness is a new book by Karen Degen that builds on many positive thinking techniques that have come before it, but it stands out because Karen puts her own spin on how to achieve happiness and she offers practical techniques to make that happen. She teaches her readers, no matter what their situations, how to determine and get rid of the obstacles that are holding them back in life, even if they don’t realize what those obstacles are. Sharing examples from her personal life, from those nagging fears and the mind chatter we all have to a major tragedy she experienced, Karen takes readers through a series of practices that will have them finding new joy and meaning in life, and most of all, a renewed sense of happiness.

While I don’t have room to discuss all the points in this book that Karen makes, for me, her discussion on stress was the most helpful. Karen begins by explaining what stress is and how our bodies can’t differentiate between the stress of a being attacked by a lion or having to meet a deadline at work. It just knows stressed or relaxed. She then makes a point that hit home for me: “The main difference between happy people and not so happy people is that happy people do less and, therefore, have less stress. Happy people simplify their lives.” Karen then gives us multiple tips about how to do less and how to create time for ourselves. She asks us to look deep into our beliefs that we’ve been carrying around that make us try to do too much, such as “It’s up to me to look after my family.” She explores the roles we take on as children, perhaps as the eldest child who has to help mom, or the “good child” who behaves because a sibling is causing mom and dad emotional pain. While those roles may have served us in the past, now they are hurting us so we need to let go of them.

Many of us do too much because we don’t know how to say, “No.” We’ve all heard how we have to learn to say that magic word, but most of us don’t know how. Karen offers practical words and an effective technique we can use in difficult situations so we can quit agreeing to do what we don’t want to do. I found her examples helpful and I am slowly learning to adapt her “No” phrases as my own.

What Karen’s ideas largely boil down to is changing the rules we’ve imposed on ourselves and are trying to impose on others. Too often, we get upset when people don’t play by our rules when they may not even know what they are, plus they probably have their own rules guiding them. Karen explains: “I think of each person as having an unwritten rule book in his or her head. This rule book has all of our needs, wants, and expectations in any given situation or relationship. The relationship may be a romantic one, a parent/child relationship, a friendship, a business relationship, or in fact, any person you interact with. The other person has a rule book in his or her head too. The problem is we often don’t communicate our needs, wants, and expectations to the other person. ‘I shouldn’t have to tell him’ I often hear from my clients. ‘It should be obvious.’ We just assume that other people’s rule books are the same as ours, but very often, they aren’t.” Karen then goes on to explain how we can learn to set boundaries, which includes communicating our rules and perhaps negotiating them with others to come to a mutual understanding. I know from personal experience that setting boundaries is vital to a person’s happiness so I highly recommend her advice here.

I’ll admit I’ve read a lot of self-help books, but if nothing else, two very short sentences in this book had a profound impact on me. The first is my favorite line in the book: “feel the guilt and do it anyway.” I absolutely love that sentence because it gives me permission to do what I want to do. I’ve often tried to learn how not to feel guilty about things, but now I feel freed from even trying not to feel guilty.

The other powerful sentence I found relates to when Karen describes how she can let her fears get the worst of her until she’s convinced her husband who may just be late coming home is experiencing a terrible death or disaster. We all have unreasonable fears that we allow to transform themselves into the worst scenarios. We also know that fear is usually unreal. The way Karen handles this is not just to notice what her brain is doing, but flippantly to say, “I knew it was just my brain doing what brains do.” She goes on to compare this situation to the fable of Chicken Little shouting that the sky is falling because an acorn fell on her head. We wouldn’t listen to a dumb chicken so why listen to our brain when it’s acting dumb? From now on, I’ll just ignore my brain when it goes into crazy worry mode.

 

Tips To Get The Point During Reading

Why is that important you might ask, well if your message is clear and to the point your recipient will know exactly what you are talking about. In business clear messages save time and misunderstandings and this is equally important in every-day life. The conversations do not need to be terse of formal just clear and to the point.

Once you have mastered the techniques you will have learned to focus your thinking, speaking and writing. Your conversations won’t wander aimlessly up a blind alley. You will become more logical and easier to listen to, the result a better success rate in your endeavour.

30 seconds is probably the amount of time a person can concentrate, so to catch their attention and get your message across aim to do it in 30 seconds. If you consider adverts on TV they are condensed into bites of around 30 seconds. Why, because it has been found the most successful amount of time for people to absorb the content.

“The little book How to Get your Point across in 30 seconds” by Milo O Frank gives you all the pointers necessary to improve your communication skills. It covers areas like knowing your single objective not complicating matters by having several agendas in one conversation. Talking to the right person, finding the best approach, having a hook to capture attention and using humour. How to develop your subject by painting a picture verbally and of course clearly asking for the result you require.

All through this little book the author has laid out a clear progression for improving your techniques and not being afraid to ask for what you want to achieve. Another book “Ask for the Moon and Get It!” Percy Ross also states in order to succeed, ask for what you want and keep asking.

So in business as in everything else the answer is to know what you want, be specific, clear and concise. This doesn’t mean you can’t be friendly, but be memorable by painting a picture, have a hook to capture attention and finish by asking clearly for your objective. All this should be confined to a 30 second sound bite. Develop this skill and you should find doors open for you and your progress being made.

 

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